Is This Holding You Back from REALLY Playing Guitar?
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Hey there, I'm Tomas from Real Guitar Success. I’ve owned a music school here in San Francisco Bay area and we just finished our yearly annual recital. Hundreds of kids and a lot of adults too are performing on stage and it really struck me. It was wonderful to see the results of, you know some time, a whole year of practice or at least a good part of that year. It was great to see the students play something that in some cases they've been working on most of the year and to feel that excitement as well as some of the fear that was going on. It also reminded me when I was growing up and learning to play guitar.
I remember a story. My girlfriend walked in one time. I was teenager and I was practicing my guitar. And she kinda looked at me and I thought it was a bit of a strange look. It wasn't like a happy look and she'd say anything at the time but later on she says something to effect “Have you thought of maybe studying to be a lawyer or a doctor?” And even though she didn't say it I got the message. I think it really struck me not just because of her. It was more because she had struck a chord inside myself. I had a fear that I was maybe wasting my time or I was somehow not talented enough to do anything with this. In fact, it's like something I've had to deal with pretty much all my life around playing music and other things too. I also realized that this is something we all share and it's not just about whether you're going to be or want to be a famous rock star or just play for your family and friends. So it's this innate fear that “God, maybe I won't be able to do this”.
Do not let your fears hold you back from being the person you want to be.
We can take that fear and kind of deal with it one or two ways. One is we gonna let it hold us back. In other words, feeling the fear was uncomfortable so we don't practice. We don’t maybe make our lessons or we don't even bother taking lessons just kind of winging it from YouTube video to whatever little pieces of information we can gather and kind of set ourselves up for failure in a way or we can use this as a challenge and say “Gee I'm gonna prove them wrong.” I'm gonna go out there and do something and them could be an imaginary there or it could be somebody real that maybe has told you “You'll never make it.”
The other thing I realized watching these students is, I would have never been the same person if I had let the naysayers so to speak kind of pushed me down and not really go for it. And again, I'm not talking about being a professional musician but just expressing my authentic self. Something that I felt strong about and that's something I felt I have to give to the world and whatever however that looks whether it's just playing for family parties or playing on stage or jamming with friends or whatever.
I want to encourage you and challenge you to think about that and not let your fears or anything or anybody else's telling you hold you back from being the person you want to be. And if it's playing music then do what you need to do to get to where you feel like you're expressing yourself. You're expressing that music inside you and sharing it with the world. Again even if it's just for one other person so this is my challenge to you. If you feel the fear, go for it anyway. Use it as a challenge and practice extra hard. That doesn't mean spend all your day practicing but if you don't feel like practicing use this as a challenge to go in there and do it anyway even if it's 15 minutes out of the day. Use that negative self-talk that you hear inside your own head sometimes as a challenge say “Thank you for sharing but I'm gonna be the person that I want to be not the person that I would default to out of fear”. And that means going and doing something about it practicing, jamming with friends, taking lessons and keeping at it little by little.
That's it for today. Thank you for listening and I hope this has been some inspiration and maybe even a little motivation for you. Go out there and give it your best. I'm Tomas Michaud from Real Guitar Success. Bye for now.
When he's not making guitar instruction videos or creating more music to record (currently 7 CDs including Beauty and Fire) he's riding his bike along the beach with his dog Marco Polo or traveling to interesting places with his lovely wife Pui.